What Does It Mean To Be A Man?

My being transgender wasn’t a mistake. A blip in the matrix, a curse, a punishment. Instead, it was one of the greatest gifts given to me by my higher self before I was conceived, that I am now living. I was meant to create a new definition of what it means to be a man through that journey.

Cis men are born into ‘male’ bodies. Born into ‘male’ roles and therefore socialized to be and become what we collectively deem male to be. What we currently believe being a man is, and should be. Indoctrinated by external pressures, the external environment, which shapes all cis men. Tells cis men that being tall, muscular, dominant, physically strong, emotionless, outspoken, assertive, masculine, rugged, aggressive, entitled, breadwinners, having a penis, having sperm and many more characteristics all intersect with being a man. They are what it means to be a man. A real man.

If you are short, feminine, weak, feeble, emotional, reserved, sensitive, submissive, dependent or sterile, you are not quite a full man. You are not a real man. Not quite enough. “Be a man!” A phrase used so often. “Man up!”. When in reality, there is no one way to be a man. Nor are there two ways. There are as many ways as there are male identified people on earth. And as I wasn’t socialized as male, nor born with a stereotypically male body, I have been blessed. I get to create what it means to be male for me, because I have to. And with this need will come an expansion of my understanding, my awareness, of who I am and who I can become as I continue to medically and hormonally cause synergy between my mind and body.

Every single male identified person is male. Is 100% male. Whether pre-T, pre-top/bottom surgery, pre-social transition, pre-everything. Whether you decide to transition or not, every single male identified person is 100% male already. Always has been and always will be. And WE get to decide what being male means to us. What it looks like, sounds like, acts like, moves like, speaks like, feels like, and lives like. Through virtue of our existence, we are teaching the world that gender goes beyond body parts, and we are therefore so important in this new energetic movement toward authenticity. We are so right, so perfect and so important for our world. We are not the problem; we are part of the cure.

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